How to Argue Correctly Author: [US] Judith Wright/Bob Wright Publisher: China Overseas Chinese Publishing House

Learn to argue effectively and quarrel for lasting happiness

◎Editor's Recommendation

☆ Love may be a fairy tale that is not related to the real world, but happiness can only come from positive and honest collisions. How can there be a couple who does not quarrel? Your attitude towards quarrels will determine the future of your relationship.

☆ The authors of this book, Mr. and Mrs. Wright, have conducted 30 years of research on marriage and have accumulated a lot of practical experience in couple training programs. They found that blindly avoiding quarrels and maintaining superficial harmony will make couples lose the opportunity to grow together, which is harmful to love. Only by learning the right way to quarrel, quarreling bravely and honestly, can you have a chance to solve the problems in your relationship.

☆ The author divides quarrels in daily life into 15 categories, analyzes various common misunderstandings about love and marriage, and proposes 6 tips to help couples achieve happiness. Quarrels are not only caused by specific events, but may also reflect the unsatisfied desires, unresolved problems, and certain thinking patterns that need to be broken by one or both parties. What you need to do is to use the opportunity of quarrels to explore these meanings, so that you can not only have the passion to love each other, but also understand the art of staying together.

◎ Introduction

You may have seen many marriage guides that teach you to avoid quarrels and communicate harmoniously, but the theme of this book is just the opposite. Based on research, consultation and training for a large number of couples, the Wrights proposed that turning ineffective quarrels into efficient and meaningful quarrels and using quarrels as an opportunity to discover the real problems hidden behind them is the key to promoting the healthy development of intimate relationships.

It is not terrible to quarrel, but it is terrible to not know why you quarrel, and to let ineffective quarrels repeatedly damage the relationship between partners. This book will teach you to distinguish the 15 most common types of quarrels, and introduce 6 techniques to dig out the essence of quarrels and turn conflicts into happiness. You will see how unreliable some love theories that have been deeply rooted in the mainstream culture are. In fact, an intimate relationship that can bring true happiness to both parties requires you to get off the clouds and gain it through down-to-earth adventures. You can embark on the path of continuous happiness and become a better self at the same time. The secret lies in every small quarrel.

◎ Celebrity recommendation

Whether you are dealing with friends, business partners or lovers, as long as you want to build sincere and vibrant interpersonal relationships, "How to Fight Correctly" is a thought-provoking and innovative work that will teach you how to get along with others positively in unexpected ways.

—Jack Canfield, bestselling author of Chicken Soup for the Soul

The Wrights' innovative methods and research are the most practical and effective ways to maximize the potential and fulfillment of couples and individuals.

— Barnet Bain, film director and executive producer of Homeless to Harvard

A practical and effective guide for couples. Based on a large number of marriage consultations, the Wrights tell us why couples need to quarrel. Feel free to quarrel, but use the right and creative methods to quarrel. Everything you need to learn is in this book.

— Larry Kirshbaum, former CEO of Time Warner Publishing Group

How to Fight Well is a presentation of the author's and others' research, supported by solid sociological evidence. Couples who need such advice will find the book's lively prose a delight.

—Barbara J. Risman, PhD, Vice President of the American Sociological Association

Whether we are making friends, dating or getting married, if we want to develop a good relationship, we need to interact with each other with full commitment. The Wrights provide us with a guidebook, telling us that only by fully investing rather than avoiding can we enjoy a stable relationship.

—Sonia Choquette, New York Times bestselling author and leader in intuitive training

I have visited Wright's workshops and was deeply impressed by the students' energetic, clear, and frank interactions. This book will tell you what are the basic elements and details of a perfect relationship.

— Brad Anderson, former CEO of Best Buy

I have never loved a book about marriage as much as How to Fight Well, which shows how to reframe conflict between couples so that you can stay together forever! The new concepts about conflict in this book are fascinating, and they can help unlock and maintain healthy neurochemistry, regardless of the test of problems and crises. I am entering my 46th year of marriage, and this book has given me new insights to continue to achieve healthy communication with my husband. Whether you are about to get married or want your current marriage to last forever, this book is a must-read.

—Judith E. Glaser, bestselling author of Conversational Intelligence

Couples hate conflict, employees hate conflict, even your pet hates conflict, but conflict and the arguments that come with it are inevitable. And the more you love someone, or the more you want to love someone, the more likely you are to have conflict. However, if you argue in a fair and loving way, it will actually bring you closer. Judith and Bob show you the right and wrong ways to argue, and every couple should read this book.

— Mark Waldman, associate researcher and therapist at the Center for Spirituality and Mind at the University of Pennsylvania

How to Fight Well has a premise that sounds counterintuitive: the purpose of your love affair is not to have fun but to help each other be the best versions of ourselves. This book offers an unusual, persuasive, wise, and caring new approach that deserves praise.

—Tony Simons, PhD, associate professor at Cornell University and author of The Integrity Dividend

If you long for a fairytale love, you will be disappointed, because in any relationship, whether public or private, conflict is an inevitable part, so learning to make conflict constructive is the key to a stable relationship. How to Fight Correctly will tell you how to use conflict to bring both parties closer, and you will find that this conflict requires you to share past experiences, understand each other more deeply, and develop lasting trust.

—— Blaine Bartlett, internationally renowned speaker, executive coach, management consultant, and business and leadership development expert, and director of the World Business Academy

I've read a lot of books on how to love your partner better, but I've never read a book that teaches you how to fight well. The Wrights not only explain the basic principles, but also introduce a series of strategies with the ultimate goal of building a lasting and vibrant relationship.

—Melissa G. Wilson, bestselling author of Networking is Dead

◎ Award record

Won the Silver Award of the 2016 Nautilus Book Award