"Original Family Survival Guide" Subtitle: How to escape the influence of abnormal family environment Author: [UK] Oliver James

A classic book that has been a bestseller in the UK for nearly 20 years

Many well-known media outlets including The Guardian, Financial Times and Daily Mail applauded

Join the British national psychologist to trace the growth trajectories of celebrities such as Queen Elizabeth II, Prince Charles, Michael Jackson, and George W. Bush, and dismantle the first 6 years of your life

◎ Editor's Recommendation

☆Another classic work by Oliver James, the author of "Born to Be This Way", highly recommended by British talented writer Alain de Botton and well-known BBC host Jeremy Wynne, and praised by many well-known media such as "The Guardian", "Financial Times" and "Daily Mail".

☆ Taking a different approach, the book breaks down the first 6 years of life into 3 parts based on the time dimension, and explains the impact of childhood experiences and original family upbringing on a person's life around the three themes of right and wrong, relationship patterns, and self-boundaries.

☆ The cases are rich and diverse, including stories of well-known celebrities such as Queen Elizabeth II, Prince Charles, Michael Jackson, and George W. Bush, as well as the patients' treatment process, interviews with criminals and patients with mental illnesses, and tracing of their original families.

☆ While writing stories, you can uncover the secrets deep in your memory. This book will provide full framework guidance and rich and detailed examples, from determining the theme, choosing the central character to laying out the plot, leaving visible footprints of personal growth.

◎ Introduction

Are you troubled by your family's expectations of you?

Is your life filled with elements of jealousy, competition, or lack of confidence?

Do you consistently fall into the same destructive patterns when interacting with others?

The author integrates the results of many years of research into this book, dismantling the first 6 years of life, showing us why a person becomes harsh or kind, cold or clingy, sick or healthy. The theme of 0-6 months is self-sense and self-boundaries. You should feel your self-worth and ability, otherwise you may be narcissistic or antisocial; the theme of 0-3 years old is relationship mode, you should develop a healthy attachment mode, otherwise you may face problems getting along with others; 3-6 years old mainly involves conscience, you should learn to balance yourself and others, otherwise you may be too conservative or rebellious. By reading this book, readers can interpret their childhood experiences, recognize their true selves, and explore a healthier model to deal with problems in their original families.

◎ Media Recommendation

This is a classic that is smart, persuasive, thoroughly researched, and refreshingly new...more fun than therapy, it is a psychology book that everyone should read.

——SUNDAY EXPRESS

An inspiring guide to family relationships.

——Financial Times

From Prince Charles to Geoffrey Archer, this accessible book explains through fascinating case studies and research how our childhood experiences dramatically shape our lives.

——DAILY MAIL

On the research topic of "How We Grow Up", the authors present us with convincing evidence...

It's an interesting book.

——THE IRISH TIMES

Taking Larkin's words as a starting point, psychologist Oliver James examines what makes us who we are, placing a strong emphasis on nurture and claiming that the care we receive in early childhood is crucial.

——DAILY EXPRESS

◎ Celebrity recommendation

If parents can be required to read this book before their children are born, it will bring happiness to the people and promote national economic prosperity more than any government law.

—— British talented writer Alain de Botton, representative works include "The Art of Travel" and "Embracing the Passing Time: How Proust Can Change Your Life"

A classic work, a book that will definitely make you think deeply.

—— Jeremy Wynne, famous BBC host