"Heartfelt Raising" by Li Meijin

【Editor's recommendation】

Psychological upbringing is more important than material upbringing. Character determines destiny more than ability.

Only if adults study hard can children improve every day

Family is the starting point of life. Many of a person's problems stem from early upbringing.

It is more valuable for parents to accompany their children in person than to just make money for them.

People's appetite is fed, their temper is brought out, their concepts are nagged into being, their cruelty is brought out of loneliness and helplessness, and their shamelessness is brought out of all kinds of indulgence and pampering.

Loving a child does not mean obeying him blindly. From the time he is old enough to understand, you should teach him to behave properly and understand the boundaries of what he can and cannot do.

People have always believed that "education" is just about explaining things to children with words, but they ignore the fact that it can also be done through actions and various contacts, that is, the process of "raising" itself is education.

Getting along with different people in a friendly manner is a social behavior that does need to be learned, but the prerequisite is that parents must deliberately cultivate this behavior in their children and help them establish a correct way of getting along with others.

【Content Introduction】

Psychological upbringing is a new concept of parenting. In the process of raising children, parents often pay special attention to whether their children are well fed and clothed, their height and weight, and whether they are lively and healthy. They regard these as all of love, but because they neglect to understand and pay attention to the mental health of infants, young children, and adolescents, they have some difficult-to-reverse psychological difficulties in their growth process, especially after entering adolescence, they will refuse to communicate, run away, contradict, be unsociable, and have learning difficulties. In this regard, psychology expert Li Meijin conveyed such a concept to parents in the book "Psychological Upbringing": psychological upbringing is more important than material upbringing in raising children. The author believes that psychological upbringing mainly includes four aspects: emotion, personality, concept, and ability. Parents must participate in the whole process of psychological upbringing, and through companionship, care, and gaining the child's sense of attachment, they can then gain the capital to discipline the child and "set rules". Parents participate in the growth of their children, carry out emotional upbringing, and teach them how to behave. This kind of psychological upbringing is more important than meeting the material needs of children. "It is more valuable for parents to accompany their children to grow up than to make money for them." We cannot miss the best and most critical period to shape our children's future life.

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