Gaslighting by Robin Stern Publisher: CITIC Publishing Group

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【Editor's recommendation】

★The first heavyweight classic psychology work that completely analyzes "gaslighting" introduced to mainland China.

★The essence of gaslighting is a relationship created by both parties, so it is called "gaslight tango". It manifests itself in emotional abuse, emotional manipulation, PUA...

★ Comprehensive interpretation of the ubiquitous mental manipulation in marriage, workplace, and family, with a 6-point plan and 5 methods to teach you how to quickly identify and get rid of toxic relationships.

★The author has an authoritative background. This is the foundational work of Dr. Robin Stern, co-founder of the Yale University Center for Emotional Intelligence and a psychoanalyst. 30 years of practical experience is made public; 10 years after publication, it is still a classic.

★This book has helped countless people regain their self-esteem and strength.

★The term "Gaslight Effect" comes from a well-known old movie "Gaslight" released in the United States in 1944. The movie mainly tells the story of a husband, the pianist Anton, who constantly manipulates his wife Paula's mind and drives her crazy in order to seize her inherited property.

★Highly recommended by well-known psychology authors and international media. Highly recommended by Daniel Goleman, the author of CITIC bestseller "Emotional Intelligence". International media include "Psychology Today", "Huffington Post", "Times", "Washington Post", "The Hill" and "Harvard Business Review".

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【Abstract】

You try hard to change yourself, hoping to be a good partner, a good employee, and a good child, but you are never able to get recognition.

Maybe it's not because you are not good enough, but because you are being manipulated unconsciously...

Do you often get your opinion of yourself from the opinions of those around you? Are you always apologizing to your parents, partner, and boss? Your parents criticize your clothes, work, friends, and dating, but you reflect that maybe their opinions are right? Do you have difficulty making simple decisions and often doubt yourself?

If you are in the same situation as above, be careful! You may have been manipulated by gaslighting!

Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free of. That’s because it triggers our deepest fear of abandonment and our deepest need to be understood, appreciated, and loved.

In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Robin Stern, a well-known psychotherapist with more than 30 years of experience in psychological counseling, shows you how gaslighting works, from recognizing the three stages of gaslighting to five ways to stop it, as well as the criteria for deciding which relationships can be saved and which ones need to be left as soon as possible. As long as you are alert, honest, and learn to ask for help, you can end these "toxic relationships" immediately. You will also find that you deserve to be better to yourself!

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Are you being gaslighted?

Activate your gaslighting radar and look for these warning signs:

1. You repeatedly question yourself.

2. Dozens of times a day you ask yourself, “Am I too sensitive?”

3. You often feel confused and even a little crazy at work.

4. You are always apologizing to your parents, boyfriend and boss.

5. You often wonder if you are a good girlfriend, wife, employee, friend, or daughter.

6. You can’t understand why there are so many wonderful things in life, but you are always not happy enough.

7. When you buy clothes for yourself, furniture for your apartment, or other personal items, you always think about what he likes instead of what you like.

8. You often make excuses for your partner in front of friends and family.

9. You find yourself hiding information from your friends and family so you don’t have to explain yourself to them or make excuses for yourself.

10. You know something is terribly wrong, but you can’t articulate why, even to yourself.

11. You start lying to avoid your partner’s demeaning comments and distortions of reality.

12. You can’t make up your mind even about simple things.

13. You should also think twice before chatting.

14. Before your partner comes home, you review in your mind all the things you did wrong that day.

15. You feel that you are very different now than you were before—more confident, more playful, and more relaxed.

16. You start talking to your husband through his secretary so you don't have to tell him directly things that might upset him.

17. You feel like nothing you do is right.

18. Your children begin to protect you from your partner.

19. You find yourself getting mad at people you usually get along with.

20. You feel hopeless and unhappy.

Gaslighting exists in any relationship, be it with a partner, employer, relative or friend.

If you meet any of the above points, then you must open this book.

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【Celebrity Recommendation】

From a social intelligence perspective, this book provides readers with methods to identify and combat emotional abuse...it lights a light to guide people away from the dark side of relationships.

——Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence

With deep compassion and brutal honesty, this book is like a steadfast, honest friend we all meet when we are in a tough situation. Robin Stern will let you know that you are not alone in these toxic relationships, and she will help you identify the role you play and how to change the situation, so that you will become a stronger and wiser person in the end!

——Rachel Simmons, author of Weird Girl

This book is an essential tool for survival. With clarity, comfort, and sophistication, psychotherapist Robin Stern takes her readers through a journey of recovery, helping them regain control of their lives and their destinies.

——"Why Women Make Things Difficult for Women" by Dr. Phyllis Chesler

Powerful guidance clearly explains the consequences of this hidden manipulation, both in public and in private.

--Sylvia Ann Wheeley, economist and author of Let the World See You

Her strategies for eliminating emotional manipulation are practical and actionable, focus on boosting self-esteem, and envision possible outcomes...Highly recommended!

──Library Magazine

Clearly and powerfully addresses an often overlooked issue - emotional abuse... I am very sure this book will improve many people's lives.

——Linda Lantieri, American Partnership for Academic, Social and Emotional Learning

Dr. Robin Stern is one of the smartest women alive today, and we have a lot to learn from her.

——《Fear of Flying》Author: Erica Rong